Monday, April 30, 2012

Listening

(written by Heidi) This blog might be taking a new direction... but it is all still about the Nestor adventure, in a way. I just can't get the boys interested in writing for it... yet! ;-) So, you just get me for now. I intend to continue to rattle on about stuff here now and then. Okay?

So... I am an impatient golfer. I like to golf and the being-outside-in-nature aspect of it, but hate the time between shots. That is just too much time to think and overthink. I am a tennis player by nature (I used to play NON-STOP until I hit college and just ran out of time and people to play... well, then my knees started to complain when I would play... I'm not getting any younger, people!) and I love that you are required to almost instantly react as soon as you hit one shot to the next shot coming at you. Bam, bam, boom!

I often times treat life like a tennis match. Give me what you got and I will flip it right back atcha! I will control all that heads my way and do the best that I can with it. If I hit a bad one or a winner gets by me, well, then... I am just even more ready for the next point. Don't get me wrong, I am not a busy body or a super-woman who juggles activity after activity and still has a clean house and dinner on the table right at 6pm (just ask my husband!). No, I am someone who goes with the flow and is in no hurry to be too busy. What I am saying is, that I tend to react (and often react quickly) to situations, good or bad, in my life when they present themselves. I see how they are going to work or not work in my life, make a decision, and go with it. I go with my gut.

This does not make for a good listener. This does not make for a good discussion over options and choices. This does not make for a patient person (me). This does not help in my quest to really listen for God in my life. Quiet time, even though I take FULL advantage of "downtime" and relaxing, does not exist for me. It was even brought to my attention through a book by Priscilla Shirer, Discerning the Voice of God, that I could be even too busy while I had time with Him to listen to Him.

I also wondered how people survive being as busy as they are. Where do they get the energy to work, take care of kids, be on a team of some sort, take their kids to their activities and then add all sorts of other extra stuff? When do they sleep? (I think they often don't sleep!) I feel like I am becoming a hippie or something as I age because I feel like I am constantly wanting to and striving to slow down and just be. But I hadn't done that in my time with God. It seems I have no problem making the time to go to church, to be in a Bible study, to serve, to read my Bible at home... but I didn't carve out that time to be still, in His presence, and wait for Him to talk to me (however that might happen).

With my nature to "have things figured out", too, I realized that I did not enter into my time with God with an open mind. I loved this Bible passage to explain what I was NOT doing:

As you enter the house of God, keep your ears open and your mouth shut... After all, God is in heaven, and you are on earth. So let your words be few. Ecclesiates 5:1-2 NLT

So, open mind and still, quiet time is the goal. Listening to others better will be a goal, too. As a "fixer", I always want to interject my ideas as soon as I can. I get so excited when I feel I have the right words to add... but sometimes what people need is a hug instead.


Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Random Thoughts On Living in Kentucky So Far

Written by Heidi.

-People here tend to either drive like their hair is on fire or they are going so slow you pull out your own hair.
-Hardly anyone uses their turn signals!
-Just one more thing about driving here... my heart smiles when I see either one of the two vehicles I have spotted regularly with Hawkeye license plate holders!

-Red clay soil shows up well on our carpeting.
-I wonder how hard it is to get plants to grow in this type of soil.
-We keep saying we need to get around to installing a fence for the yard... but have yet to do it.

-We have only met one neighbor in the 11 weeks we have lived here.
-No one goes outside here unless it is close to 60 degrees out, I am convinced.
-I love the weather here.

-Our church is a lot like our old one... 10 years ago. Exciting times to come, I hope!
-The women I met at a church game night were very friendly!
-I can't wait to go on a scrapbooking retreat with these women! (Coming up in March!)

-We are getting used to the Louisville/Kentucky rivalry. We are claiming allegiance to Louisville.
-I am still a true Hawkeye! And I will always root for Michigan State, Illinois, Duke and Iowa State above Louisville.

-Derek likes his job a lot. I am so glad for that!
-Lots of people seem to have dogs here.

-There is a place here called "The Pie Kitchen" and it is awesome!
-I have yet to see an Asian or Mexican grocery store here. :-(
-It took us 10 weeks (and the fact that our car was being worked on and we had no place else to go) for us to discover one of the malls here... and I am not that anxious to have to go back. But that is probably just something about my personality. The mall was fine for a mall, I guess.
-Trader Joes is too far away. :-(
-Papa Johns Pizza tastes even better here!
-I am anxious for a day to go visit IKEA in Cincinnatti! It is only an hour and a half or so away!

That's about it for now. Hope you are having a great day!

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Night and Day, Baby!

Written by Heidi. Have you heard the saying, "What a difference a day can make!" Well, let me tell you, I am feeling that relief this week!

I was in a panic and reacting emotionally, that is for sure. But let me start off telling you just how much I love my boys! I love them bunches!!! God definitely answered some awfully big prayers with my first baby (the baby himself and the timing in my life of that baby's arrival) and amazed me with the second one, too. If you want to get me to cry happy tears ON THE SPOT, just ask me how much I love those little men in my life. (For that matter, the big guy - a.k.a. Hubby - means that much to me, too!)

Well, if you have been in touch with me or reading the ol' blog here, you know how we have have been happy in Kentucky... except thrown off a bit by how the schools work down here. (And can you tell that sometimes I think in a southern accent? Does that come over here on the blog page? Anyway...) Public schools had us traveling WAY too far away for school... then we had to find a good (and rea$sonable) private school. We found that and then had to deal with the culture shock of that fine establishment and it's pace for learning!

The boys and I freaked out a little bit! Lots of homework and catching up on subjects the boys have never had exposure to... well, it was rough waters for the first two weeks! I even started to think about homeschooling. (Which, if you were in on the conversation between me and God the other day about how I probably needed more patience in the mornings as my boys get ready for school, you would realize that homeschooling might not be the favored option in this household... but I was willing to do it!) It was feeling like a night I was ready to be done with.

Then, there was the "next day" (in other words, "this week"). There is a tempo we have not had since school started. (We had QUITE the relaxed tempo after Thanksgiving and the boys were off for a month!) I am all about a regular schedule and not too many bumps in the road, if I can help it. And this week has felt like normal life, as much as life feels normal. The boys have been getting done in the classroom what needs to be done (so, no extra homework). They feel in the swing of their schedule at school. And loving Every-Friday-Papa-Johns-Pizza-Lunch! They are back to being excited as they tell me about their day!

Maybe, just maybe... had I just waited and been PATIENT, I would have not gotten so bent out of shape (didn't use the words "freaked out"... pretty nice, huh?) about this new school and schedule. God led us to this school in amazing ways and I needed to trust Him and I, in effect, didn't. I tried to control the situation instead of giving it up to Him. Which, if you were in on the conversations between God and me all the time about how I need to trust Him more, you would understand that this is something I am working on. ;-)

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

School: We Are in Week #2

Written by Heidi. So, school has started after our LONG winter break. (The boys were off for Thanksgiving, then we had our challenges with the public school system here and then the boys got started at the private school with their first day being a success on January 2.) Yes, that first day was exciting and the boys were very brave and tackled it well. Then the homework started coming home...

Don't get me wrong... when we toured the school and took a closer look at what is was all about, we loved it! They included Spanish in their curriculum, handwriting was a focus, math skills were a bit more traditional, Bible study and memorizing Bible verses are an everyday occurrence (along with spelling!) which made our hearts leap for joy! We liked their principles and how the school was set up... everyone we talked to at the school was friendly and very professional.... it was great! We were excited that the boys were going to continue the fine educational path  they were started on in Iowa.

Well, as fine as it was, the path they started in Iowa was just different than the path they have here in this private school. We found out that the children here just are a bit further along in their studies (and especially in their handwriting and spelling) and we have some catching up to do. The pace at which they handle all these subjects in a day has hit full stride by this time of the year. While it was good to have moved and immediately (somewhat) got the boys going in school was good... they had to hit the ground running.

But we have declared once again that we are "Team Nestor" and we are going to tackle these challenges and take the setbacks to motivate us more! We have had struggles, but we are going to figure those out and get on track to some fun success at school! With Jesus at the heart of it all, you just know it is going to be good!

The whole "wearing a uniform" thing was foreign to us, too... but we definitely see it's advantages. The boys look so cute in their khakis and neckties for chapel day! Chapel day is every Tuesday and the boys like wearing their fancy neckties and button down shirts. They say that they look like a grown-up heading to work and they like that!

Saturday, December 17, 2011

And Here We Are!

Flowers still in bloom in December... A trip to get to know our new zoo... A new spot to chill out and watch some TV...

Friday, December 16, 2011

Kentucky Firsts!

Written by Heidi.
This is a list of "firsts" accomplished in our new house and elsewhere:

The first to lose a tooth: Dawson!!!

The first to barf (poor guy!): Davis!!!

The first to make a peanut butter sandwich: Heidi/Mom!!!

The first to place a tracheal stent at his work: Derek/Dad!!!

The first to poop on the floor: Duke! (Let's be clear here: Duke is a dog.)

The first to hack up a hairball: Larry (and Larry is a cat) :-)

The first animal to thoroughly inspect the food pantry: Thomas (our tuxedo cat)!!!

And I need to add here that I had help from the boys writing this post. They like the gross stuff and think it's funny. I am glad my "first" was not gross!

Thursday, December 15, 2011

By Davis

Written by Davis. This is what I like about Louisville, Kentucky:

They have my favorite restaurant: Kentucky Fried Chicken. I know they are other places, but here they are cool!

I am excited about going to my new school. We start January 2nd.

I really like my new house. It's very big and I like my room, too.

Merry Christmas, Everybody!